I dislike hate loathe abhor detest am not a fan of New Year’s Eve. I think it brings with it too much arbitrary pressure to be incredible. Incredible is a choice. It is not reliant upon a certain second at the end of a year. It is not reliant upon others (though it does involve them). Incredible is within your control. It is your choice.
Ten years ago last night I was at a rodeo in Colorado Springs. I was on a horse (that’s right, as in “giddyup giddyup let’s go”) team roping. Yes, your city-boy, web-designing, L.A. actor was aback “Moose” (my horse at the time) doing a rather decent job of heading (that means roping the horns of a cow–heeling means roping the back two legs–for all you non-cowfolk out there). However, I was immersed in an environment that did not fit my soul. And while I had become quite proficient (read: spent a LOT of time practicing) at all things rodeo, it was not what I wanted to do with my life. I remember that Y2K NYE like it was yesterday. I looked around and was not happy with my circumstances. The country life was not for me, homeschooling had run its course, and no one should be in an abusive family environment. Roughly a year later I made the choice to leave that life behind. I moved to the city and began an entirely different journey.
I am sitting here astonished at how different my life is 10 years later. Had you come to me 10 years ago and said that within a decade I would graduate at the top of my class, get college paid for, be an actor in Los Angeles, own two companies, and have a social network of the most amazing people in the world, I might have laughed in your face. Yet here I am.
I write these things with fear of sounding boastful, but also with the conviction that all of you have the choice to become what you want to become. To achieve what you want to achieve. The choices are myriad and not always easy, but they add up. They make a difference. And please remember that to fully see the benefits of these choices takes time (note that it took a decade to get from rural cowboy to Hollywood actor…and I’m still at the beginning of that journey). Be gentle with yourself.
While these choices can be difficult, I will say that become progressively easier. Moving out of my mom’s house to go to a large public school seemed like a rather daunting task. But by the time I was deciding to move 2000 miles away to a new city to pursue a career in the worst economic times of my life, the choice was easy. These choices proffer themselves daily, and one-by-one they may seem small. Together across the course of a decade, though, they add up. Take the plunge. Follow your bliss. Tell us about it in the comment section below. π
The next decade is going to be epic. I thank you from the bottom of my heart for being with me on this journey.
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January 1, 2010 at 8:37 pm
JoeVB
I was JUST thinking about how far I’ve come from the Joe VB of 10 years ago, and you’re absolutely right! The difference is quite astonishing! I cannot WAIT to see what the next ten years holds for me. π Inspiring post, my man.
January 1, 2010 at 9:33 pm
kisabird
10 years ago I was beginning my last semester at college.
In the past 10 years I have:
graduated with top honors and gave my second valedictorian speech,
worked successfully for a decade in the creative arts industry as a designer,
met my fabulous husband,
got married,
bought a house,
fell in love with Nia (all you LA girls should know about this workout class),
learned to cook,
learned to cook really well,
found my inner “hostess with the mostest”,
went really blonde,
went red,
traveled to brazil, to aruba (twice),
planted a garden,
fixed our house,
took a watercolor class,
went back for web and flash courses,
taught my first class,
became co-chair treasurer of aiga,
made and lost friends,
attended all my friend weddings,
watched my friend’s start families,
stayed the same size,
lost my job and got 2 better jobs in the same year,
turned 30,
found my 2nd best friend for life,
went to a kentucky derby,
found a love for pinot grigio,
rekindled my inner fire – i am the captain of my fate.
January 2, 2010 at 5:08 pm
benwhitehair
Wow. Incredible what one can accomplish with passion and dedication over a number of years. Thanks for sharing. π
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